Now that we’ve gone through the whole process of getting married, I thought I would share my best practices/lessons learned for future brides about to embark on this journey.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff.
This was my mantra throughout our engagement. OK, sometimes I did sweat the small stuff, especially the week leading up to our wedding. This leads me to my next point. . .
- The week before your wedding, you will turn into an emotional crazy person.
It’s true. Especially when you start getting last minute requests. After you’ve turned in seating charts, menus, etc. to your venue. Just try to breathe and remember the main goal: to marry the love of your life.
- Plan for at least one meltdown.
And it might be over something small. You might end up crying in a shoe store with your mom and sister because the dress shop didn’t have your dress altered when they said they would and told you to come back later to pick it up (true story). As much as you try to be a cool bride, you will have one moment where everything feels overwhelming. Then you’ll cry. Then you’ll feel better and go pick up your wedding dress.
- Repeat after me: the more, the merrier.
If you search “plus one” on Weddingbee, you’ll get hundreds of posts debating who gets invited to a wedding and who doesn’t. Some couples instill a “live together, married, or dating more than a year” rule. We threw that out the window.
For our wedding, we wanted our friends to have fun, so we invited everyone with a plus one. Some people took us up on the offer and others didn’t. And you know what, everyone had a great time.
I understand some couples have very tight budgets, or tight venues, but this leads me to another point. . .
- People will say they are coming, and then not show up, always.
I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have a few empty seats, and ours was no exception. Whether guests forget the date, have a work conflict, or have a family emergency; there will be some empty seats at your wedding. I’ve never seen a wedding go over capacity. It may happen, but it’s rare.
- You will be surprised by who says yes, and who declines.
There will be people you never in a million years thought would come to your wedding that do come. There will also be people who you thought would come, who don’t. Try not to take it personally, life happens.
- If you can get hair, makeup and dressed in the same spot – do it.
It was so much fun to spend the day in the bridal suite with my ladies. We didn’t have to rush off to a salon or a makeup studio. We got to sip mimosas, and the hotel even brought us lunch. I highly recommend this. It takes away the stress. Even if you stay home, have the vendors come to you, if possible.
- It’s going to go by SO FAST.
Seriously, our wedding day was a blur. It went by so fast. But it was so wonderful and everything we wanted. Try to build in 30 minutes to spend alone with your hubby on your wedding day. It will help you slow down and breathe everything in. And it also gives you both a chance to eat something.
- Take a relaxing honeymoon.
You’ll be tired. You’ve just spent the past year planning a wedding. You spent the past weekend having the best party of your life. You’ll just want to lie by a beach, or a pool, or on a cruise ship. Our honeymoon at an all-inclusive in Mexico was perfect. People waited on us and brought us rum drinks. We ate a ton. We spent most of our time horizontal (which included lying by the pool and beach). And we went to bed by 10 p.m. every night. It. was. awesome. When else do you get the chance to do that? Take the adventurous sight-seeing trip on an anniversary.
- Keep up with your thank you notes.
Your hands will thank you. Try to write notes after every event. I also made a rule that I couldn’t use the item until I wrote and sent the thank you note. It helps so you don’t have a million notes to write after the wedding.